My Boyfriend texts his ex..What should I do?

by admin on March 24, 2013

So I have never been the girl to look through my boyfriend’s phone or anything like that. But the other night, I was at his house at around 3 a.m. and he starts getting all these messages within minutes of each other. His phone is on the bed, and I can see that the person texting him is some girl and the message (well what i could see of it) said "didnt expect you to text back"..He doesn’t respond. Then another one comes at like 4 in the morning that says "night night". He still doesn’t respond. So he leaves the room for a few minutes and I can’t help myself. I look at his messages and see not only this girl but another girl texting him. The messages say things like "goodmorning, hope you have a good day" and she was telling him how she wants to call him so she can vent about her bad week that she had. When he gets back in the room, I dont say anything, but I do have a bit of an attitude. Later, after he drops me off at home, I text him and (trying not to be accusing) I say "so can I ask you something? Who was that girl that was texting you?" He tells me that she’s an ex and he has no intention of getting back with her. I still think he’s lying but I didnt text him back. That was yesterday and I still dont know what to say to him. Should I let it go?

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Maya N March 24, 2013 at 12:21 pm

oh definitely break up with him.
i don’t have much to say because i think you’re smart enough to know

Emmy March 24, 2013 at 12:21 pm

I think your right to be worried… I had an ex boyfriend who talked to like ALL of his xgfs… He said they were "just friends" but one girl he was talking to and then was like oh shot she’s here I’ll ttyl. And one he sent a picture of himself and was like do u miss me? And I continued to let myself get played by this guy. Dumbest thing i ever done thankfully now i have the best bf ove ever dated and its amazing Although none of her texts said anything like that.. He still wasn’t answering her texts when you were in the room so it seems like he’s hiding something. And her texts make it seem like they’ve been talking for a while, or may haven’t stopped talking to each other at all. I’d bring it up straight forward. Don’t let yourself get played.

Morgan March 24, 2013 at 12:21 pm

Well if he never responded to her…I’d let it go….my bfs ex calls him drunk all the time wanting to be with him again…even though we r in a serious relationship and she knows that….he answered her call the first time not knowing it was her # and after that he ignores her and her voicemails she leaves….so if ur bf isn’t responding to her then ignore it….I’d check his phone like tomorrow or Monday and if he never responded to her then ur ok!! And if he did…and it was a flirty text then u need to talk to him….

A.B.C March 24, 2013 at 12:21 pm

Tell him how it bothers you that he’s texting an ex girlfriend, especially at 3-4 in the morning. I dont care who you are, if you have a girlfriend, there is no other girl you should be texting at 3 in the morning other than your actual girlfriend. Just ask him if you can talk to him about something and just start it off with "I’m uncomfortable with you texting an ex girlfriend" or "It bothers me that your ex girlfriend is texting you, especially that early in the morning"…or whatever sounds better to you. My boyfriend and I are always honest with each other, if something is bothering me, i sit down with him and tell him and he appreciates it more than anything that I can be honest with him.

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