My boyfriend text and talks on the phone for a long time with his ex, which he has a baby with.?

by admin on November 30, 2012

I tell him it bothers me but he reasures me that they are just talking about there daughter and I have nothing to worry about. What should I think?
Yeah but he has done a couple things in the past that have made me wonder. I’ve asked him to at least stop texting her in the past and he said they stopped, but I have seen on the cell phone bill that they havent. And by the way there daughter is 3 and we also have a 2 year old together.

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Funsumer November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

Well #1 youa lready think what you want to think.

#2 He’s got a child and I think you should give him benefit of a doubt, alot of fathers don’t care that much, I think it’s a good sign he does!

April November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

call her and ask her what is up

Happy Birthday To Me! November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

Ok, he is obvious with you & not his ex.

Though he has be a dad & make sure things are ok with his daughter because he is a father.

mariethebeautiful November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

No girl, that has got to stop….there’s only so much they can talk about when it comes to the unborn child…..It’s not like the baby’s sick and needs to go to the doc…she’s not even born yet…. Don’t know his intentions, but that is not acceptable…. good luck and don’t take anyone’s crap

poprocks November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

If they have a kid together, they should talk about it. That’s all i have to say. If he tells you you have nothing to worry about, and you trust him, then i’m sure you have nothing to worry about…

Eggroll Jenkins November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

Girl check him….Do you listen to the convo? Is he really just talking about the child the whole time? If so, dont worry. If he is talking about inappropriate things with her, I would leave him. You have already told him time and time again that you dont like it. Show and prove.

Sarah November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

let him! he is talking to the mother of his child..
he should be ‘allowed’ to talk to her as much as he wants, and build a healthy relationship with her and his daughter. you shouldnt be stopping that. If you two are a good couple, worth sticking it out for then you will be able to talk to him yourself and ask him how he feels.. if you arent able to do that, then you probably dont have a good enough relationship to stop him from talking to his daughters mother.

Reesie November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

Threaten to dump him girl. My man ain’t allowed to be talkin on the phone for hours with some other chick.

Dee H November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

You can’t know what to think until you have the facts. If it’s just about the baby, fine. The problem is you don’t trust the man. There is a piece below on the site that may help you to get better at detecting lies. It is called How to Tell When Someone Is Lying.

irrevocable November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

excellent, it’s finally happened. Years of human progress and technological development so that people can get on the internet and ask complete strangers "what should I think?"
congratulations on achieving a historical milestone you big stupid-head.

btw, you should think about string-theory – it’s fascinating.

honeybots November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

I think your boy friend is still in love with his ex if he talks for a long time with her. If it is just about the baby he is concerned he can just send her financial support for the baby and that could take care of his child.

curiously_cautioned November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

I wouldnt trust it, what could they possibly be talking about so much. I have a baby daddy and talk to him about 1 time a week for about 2 minutes about our son. It all depends on if you trust him or not. That is the key question to ask yourself, only you know what kind of guy he is to determine if he is trying to be sneaky or not. I would just let him know that is a part of the past and if he is not over it to let you know.
Good Luck-

Atticus Flinch November 30, 2012 at 12:20 pm

Your attitude threatens four lives:
One) The most important of all, his daughter. She needs her father and will do better in life having a warm, loving, helpful relationship, which far too many children lack

Two) Your boyfriend. Give him all the time he needs in being with or talking to his daughter, and grant him the benefit of the doubt regarding his ex. As the parents of a child it is crucial that they maintain at least a cordial respect for each other; this will prove invaluable as time goes on

Three) Your own life. Don’t get in the way. Stop interfering with his parental guidance. You will become bitter if you continue with your selfish ways. You probably knew he was a father when you got together with him.

Four) The child’s mother. For whatever reason, she and your boyfriend are no longer together. Trust them. Imagine a life in which the four of you can get along and share a happiness that so many lack in life. Think of happy a life the child can have with your help.

Relax. Take some deep breath. Life is too short to create tension for yourself and those in your circle.

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